You have to get hit in the face a little bit. It wakes you up and makes you think. Punching erases your memory. When you say the five things you are going to do in the guard, each time you get punched you'll start forgetting each thing. The more you get punched, the lower your belt gets.
Punch – Punch – Punch – Stall – Hold – Control – Resilience – Motion – Smother!
Blanket them with your body weight and hit them as many times as you can. If you grapple at home, and only grapple, you need to add striking to your game to make it real!